I have discovered the perfect book for finding what to say and do to really comfort those who are hurting. It is "The Art of Helping" and the author is Lauren Briggs. As we raise our families, we often run into all kinds of situations with family and friends where we want to know what we can say or do that will help our loved ones through a difficult time. Some of the chapters offering ways and words to help include miscarriage, loss of a child, loss of a spouse, chronic illness, loss of a job, and many more. I HIGHLY recommend this book for all of my friends - it is a wonderful answer to the question of "what can I say in this situation that will comfort?" -- helping us nurture and encourage others when they need it the most. Here's the description:
"How often have you wanted to offer comfort and hope to a friend who was going through a tough time, but didn't know what to say or do? Therefore, you did nothing and felt awkward about it. We have all been there at one time or another, which is why everyone needs this book! It is a must have as a reference to know what to do and say when friends and family are hurting. Whether your friend is facing divorce, the death of a child, cancer, the loss of a job, infertility, and estranged or rebellious child, a chronic illness, or other tough issues of life, you will find help through each chapter as they give simple instructions and suggestions that take away that fear of reaching out when someone is going through a rough time. The book includes quick and easy recipes for meals (you may want the book for these recipes alone) that will meet the needs of the recipients without breaking your budget. Lauren Briggs has given us the tools we need to reach out and make a difference in the lives of those whose worlds have been turned upside down. With The Art of Helping you will be able express your feeling in a positive, uplifting manner that a hurting person will understand and appreciate."
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I don't think you will be disappointed - and you will be ready to offer comfort and help in meaningful ways at just the right time.